LGBTQ: Family and Acceptance

Navya SwarupJul 24 . 7 min read

LGBTQ: Family and Acceptance

The full form of LGBTQ is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, and Queer/Questions. LGBT organizations and subcultures united by a shared culture and social movements. Pride, diversity, individualism, and sexuality are all celebrated in these groups. And June is Pride Month, a month dedicated to celebrating LGBTQ rights.

The term pride, or gay pride as it is sometimes called, emphasizes the LGBT community's identity and collective strength; pride ceremonies are a good illustration of its use and represent its broader meaning. The political affiliations of the LGBT community are numerous. Not everyone who identifies as homosexual, bisexual, or transgender belongs to this community.

Acceptance and support from family members and the community are essential variables in promoting well-being and protecting LGBT youth from harm because:

  1. The individuals who are not biologically or legally connected to youth can be considered family, depending on personal, cultural, and other considerations.
  2. The reactions of a child's family to their gender and sexual identity expressions might be variable. While some families are supportive, tolerant, and even joyous, others may react and behave in harmful ways and cause pain. Family acceptance has been shown to protect people from despair, substance abuse, and suicide ideation and attempts.
  3. According to research, these youth who were highly rejected were more likely to attempt suicide, report high levels of depression, use illegal drugs, have a high mental illness, and have an increased risk of HIV and sexually transmitted diseases than LGBT youth who had little or no parental or caregiver rejection.
  4. Organizations and systems that serve youth can promote awareness of and encourage family behaviors about this.
  5. Blocking access to friends, events, and services, blaming youth for discrimination based on their identity, and forcing adolescents to be more "masculine" or "feminine" are all practices that should be avoided and condemned.

How can family support their children?

  1. In an affirming approach, they are engaging with youth about their identities.
  2. Expressing their belief that their child can have a happy future as an LGBT adult
  3. Ensuring that the rest of the family respects the young person meeting with clerics and assisting their religious community in supporting LGBT people
  4. They were advocating for young people who are being abused due to their identification.
  5. It's also critical for youth-serving organizations and communities to improve their cultural competency while working with the growing number of LGBT-led households.

What is the significance of family acceptance?

Family acceptance will be helpful to realize that, even if it doesn't appear so, both you and your child are usually acting from a place of love. If your child comes out to you, remember to praise them for accomplishing something difficult. Your child will come out to several people throughout their life. They may be approved in some cases, but they may also be rejected in others. Beginning their journey with your love and acceptance, on the other hand, can help them develop a feeling of self-worth and confidence to confront future challenges—and to have a healthier and more satisfying life. Young people who grew up in welcoming households had stronger self-esteem, social support, and general health. 

Some parents express their love and support for their children immediately, but it takes time to adjust. Most parents start somewhere in the middle, but as time goes on, they become more accommodating.

How to Tell Your Parents That You are LGBT?

Parents desire a joyful, healthy, and secure environment for their children. If your child comes out to you as LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender), it may or may not be something you expected or felt prepared for, but your acceptance is crucial to their health and safety.

1.Keep an eye on them and know when to tell them.

The first step is to ensure that you will inform your parents about your sexual orientation at the appropriate moment. The more robust and more stable your relationship with your parents and their problem is, the more likely they are to understand you. Telling your parents about it will require a face-to-face conversation.

2.Construct a response to their objection.

Perhaps it took you years to realize that you are not like most people regarding sexual orientation. On the other hand, you can see how being different, including sexual orientation, can elicit various responses; both positive and negative outcomes can be there. So, to convince your parents more effectively, you should prepare an answer to any objections they may raise.

3.Keep it short and sweet and say it with compassion.

Ensure that you are making a strong and clear statement about your sexual orientation, keep your dialogue concise and empathetic.

4. Don't tell your parents about your sexuality when bringing your lover.

If you don't bring your partner to assist you in coming out, it may be simpler for your parents. You can make introductions later, or if they've previously met your spouse, you can inform them about their significance afterward.

5.Make a Plan Before Coming Out to Your Parents

It's a good idea to plan ahead of time what you'll say. Before telling your parents, you might want to tell a close friend. It may also be beneficial to speak with individuals who have gone through the process before to gain insight and potentially guidance on the Do's and Don'ts of coming out to parents.

6.When it comes to coming out to your parents, be patient.

You must be patient with your parents and understand that their acceptance is a lengthy process. Consider how long it took you to emerge. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to be at ease with this right away. Allow them time to process the news in their way.

Your parents may become enraged and, in rare situations, even disown you. You must be patient and, above all, faithful to yourself, and things will improve over time.

7.Be Ready to Respond to Questions

Prepare yourself for the questions you expect your parents to ask before coming out to them. Ensure they understand that it isn't their fault and that the only decision they had to make was whether or not to be happy. 

Inform your parents that you are content and well-adjusted in your life, with supporting friends and relatives. If your parents are concerned about probable gay stigma and prejudice, reassure them that you can exercise sound judgment to avoid potentially harmful situations.

8.When coming out to your parents, be prepared to offer resources for support.

You should have a local PFLAG (Parents, Families, and Friends of homosexuals) number, leaflet, or website on hand if your parents need to talk to someone. They may alter their minds and come around if they are initially unaccepting.

Gender and sexual orientation are significant parts of a young person's identity. Understanding and expressing sexual orientation and gender and forming related identities are standard developmental processes for children and adolescents. Some teenagers, for example, maybe unclear of their sexual orientation, while others have known their sexual inclination since childhood and have expressed it openly.

Homosexual, bisexual, and transgender youth experience a variety of challenges as a result of how others react to their sexual orientation or gender identity/expression, thus they should be aware of their lgbtq+ rights. This is also true for young people who are unsure about their sexual orientation or gender identity or are seen by others as LGBT or gender variant. Higher rates of physical and emotional intolerance and violence, rejection by families and friends, and insufficient support in schools, employment, and communities due to their sexual orientation and gender identity/expression are just a few of the unpleasant experiences they've had. 

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