Every body is different, unique, and beautiful in its own way. No one had the right to question the body type. But we live in a world where people are judged on their body type and looks more than their personality and nature. Body shaming is one of these unnecessary things. This is a kind of bullying, where people humiliate others by making critical comments about the way they look. Body shaming can happen at any place, not only talk about strangers, but family members can also make you feel uncomfortable, friends can hurt your feelings, maybe at work colleagues may talk about how you look. It can start from an early age or when you grow up.
We never realize that, by this kind of behavior, we make the beauty grade. People feel ashamed of how they look and are never satisfied with their looks. They always think about what others will think and say about them. Not only this, it is considered odd when someone feels good about the way they look. This results in low self-esteem can be the cause of depression and eating disorders.
To our surprise, there are types of body shaming that many of us go through.
This needs to be stopped immediately. We have no right to tell others what they should look like. We need to understand that body-shaming others is not some kind of motivation for them, rather it's more like a deprivation for them. Instead, we need to make them comfortable and accept the way they are and not make them feel about themselves.
But as said, there's a solution to every problem. And for this unacceptable problem, there’s a solution too. Let's talk about that.
Ways to deal:
Many people get to hear that “You should eat less or should do exercise”, “Why are you so skinny”, “Get in shape or you will not have any friends”, "She/He is not even perfect to be on TV”. These all are hurting statements and one way to avoid the statements is to ignore them. But for how long a person can ignore people. So, if you are scared of these things, the only way is to face your fear because that will make you strong.
It is important to not shame people but to especially not shame someone for something they have little control over.
Things like “Don't let it get to you” are easy to say, but in reality, it is way more harder to put up with it than anybody can think. People who make others feel ashamed of their bodies are themselves shameless(so stay aware of them). Arguing with them is just like ‘bringing owls to Athens’. So, save your breath.
Loving oneself is the hardest thing to do. But, it’s not impossible. Take care of yourself, be you, go out, wear whatever you want, dress up for yourself, not for others, make new friends. These things help you open up, boost your self-confidence and you start to love yourself and are not any more affected by what others talk about you. You automatically start feeling pity for them because they usually ‘blow their own trumpet’ and you feel happy for yourself. Just remember that “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”